How To Overcome or Deal Social Anxiety About Your Acne

Feeling self-conscious about acne is not a matter of vanity – it's a matter of feeling comfortable in your own skin. This can be especially difficult when media and society constantly tell us that perfect skin is not just attainable, but expected. Acne, and anxiety about acne, can take a serious toll on a person's self esteem and emotional wellbeing. We know that firsthand.

We spoke to Azra Alic, LCSW, a psychotherapist who specializes in Social Anxiety Disorder and Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors (such as skin picking). She walked us through some of the steps that she takes with clients who are battling acne-induced social anxiety.

Have you ever been at a social gathering and felt like you couldn’t actually BE yourself because your acne was affecting your confidence? In this post, Azra gives us some tools to help us overcome those moments.

Q: how have you seen acne affect one’s emotional wellbeing?

A: Acne can really impact people’s self-esteem, and can even lead to depression. I’ve worked with people who feel so self-conscious that they don’t want to be around other people. They might avoid spending time with friends or dating.

They might also avoid certain outdoor activities so they don’t have to wear clothing that reveals body acne, or avoid exercise or other activities where they might sweat their makeup off. Basically, acne can keep people from fully enjoying their lives.

Q: why do we feel like people are staring at our acne? do other people notice our acne as much as we do?

A: No, they don't! People think way more about themselves than they do about other people. Sometimes, I'll have a client do a behavioral experiment to help them test out their theories. I’ll have them walk around a public area without wearing makeup and try to see how many people “stare” at them.

Sometimes I’ll even record them and we’ll watch the video together to see if anyone gave them a weird look. People are usually surprised to find that their worst fears didn’t come true. I’d recommend this experiment for anyone out there who deals with social anxiety and acne.

Q: what are some common tactics people use to try and hide their acne from their peers and social circles?

A: I’ve worked with people who spend an excessive amount of time getting ready and camouflaging their acne before going out in public. They won’t go out in public without extreme preparation. They can never be spontaneous. They spend an exorbitant amount of money on makeup and skincare products. Depending on the location of their acne, they might take great care to style their hair to conceal acne or acne scars. They might even avoid certain clothing or activities because they don’t want to expose their acne or acne scars.

Q: how do you help your clients overcome anxiety around acne in social settings?

A: I help people focus on the social experience, rather than focusing on their appearance. For example, I’ll encourage them to try really hard to focus on the conversation they’re having. Be present!

By practicing mindfulness in this way, people start to learn to be fully in the moment instead of focusing on negative thoughts about their skin. 

Q: it's rare to see any mention of acne-caused anxiety in today's popular media. why do you think that is? 

A: Hmm that is a good question. I would guess that it’s because most of the advertising and product development in our culture is still focused on prevention and elimination of skin imperfections, rather than acceptance.

Also, I think that there is still an overarching belief in popular media that if you look good, you’ll feel good, and that gets reinforced over and over again in so many ways, whether it’s related to weight, skin, hair type, etc. But trying to find confidence solely through “looking good” is a never-ending battle.

It's much more common now to see “plus-size" models, but I think we have yet to see an editorial spread in which a model has a pimple (not to mention a pore!).

Q: how do we get ourselves to see more than our skin flaws when we look in the mirror?

A: It can be helpful to step away from the mirror a bit and take in the whole body, rather than getting up close and focusing only on what we are most self-conscious about.

Also, it can be helpful to focus on what is going to happen that day and why it’s important, rather than focusing on how you're feeling about yourself or how you look. For example, the thought “I’m going out with my friends tonight because these friendships are important to me” can start to negate the negative thought of “I have a big pimple and everyone is going to see”.

Q: do you have a good mantra to pass along to help those struggling with anxiety about acne? 

A: I don’t have a go-to mantra because I usually have clients come up with their own, but often it’s along the lines of, “my skin problem is probably not as noticeable as I think it is, and even if people notice, what is so bad about that? Can I handle whatever happens?”

Deep down, most people are afraid of being rejected for their perceived flaws but usually, that fear is unfounded.

Q: do you think that by sharing personal struggles about these topics with our peers online or via social media, we can begin to foster a more skin-accepting community and even society? 

A: Yes! Talking about insecurities and being vulnerable with others plays a big role in reducing feelings of shame and isolation. So often, people think that they are the only ones who are struggling with negative self-image when statistics tell us otherwise.

I do think it’s important to caution people about the “misery loves company” mentality and make sure that people are not just complaining to one another, but rather that the messages being exchanged are empowering.

Thank you, Azra!

 

so what are our steps to feeling better about our “imperfections”?

1) Look people in the eye when you’re having a conversation with them.

2) Be present.

3) Remember that you are always your own worst critic.

4) And, finally, remind yourself that your breakouts do not impact your self worth.

 

we hope you found this helpful - if you have any questions, email info@cocokind.com!


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emma on

im 17 and i just started having acne on my face, especially on my forehead and cheek. really did a number on my confidence because my facial skin never really gave me an issue. we have to wear masks now, and it helps hide most of my acne, but whenever i need to take it off, i get quite self-conscious. i’m still struggling, still insecure about it but i know it will eventually get better. to anyone facing acne now, your worth is not defined by the flaws on your skin. take care of yourself and leave the rest to time and your body’s healing process. i’d like to think of this as an opportunity to find other non superficial things to love about myself, and you should too. xx

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Patty Han on

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anonymous on

I had severe acne since I was in 5th grade, my friends used to ask me what is wrong with my face and I had my hairstylist cut fringes so it would hide my horrible acne. Once my friend swiped my bangs and she was like ew, that comment broke my heart and I was so self conscious I started stealing my mom’s foundation to hide the acne. I had boyfriends but I was never really into the relationship because I was embarrased of my acne. it has definitely cleared since then and my skin is much better now, it’s not clear but it’s not exactly worse either. i know having acne sucks guys but we’ll get through this!! trust me just keep the confidence, it really works

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Agness on

Am 22 y.o.I started having acne when I was 12yr.o…I didn’t pay much attention because it wasn’t that much but then,after I reached the age of 19 ….it started worsening..I started using epiderm …but then it just gotten worse as if someone had just polled the acne on my face. My mum tried to help me with different products but still nothing changed….when I went to university..the first weeks in campus where horrible…I remember one day in campus I heard someone asking the friend "are my pimples as bad as this one? "….. I felt so low ..my friend was also like "your face looks like a gravel road " the other time we were walking with my friends then a group of men where coming from behind…I didn’t even notice that they were looking at me then one of my friends said “they haven’t just seen the face yet” …that used to break me …thank God the acne is atleast gone.just reamained with dark sports …I dont even know how to get ridy of them….one thing I can just assure someone who is out there is that LOVE YOUR SELF I know its very hard ..but trust me once you start loving your self ..your self esteem will start growing and before you realise it you will just discover that you have strong self confidence…

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Kate on

I am 17 almost 18 years old and i have had acne since i was in year 7. But currently it is as bad as it has ever been. my whole left face looks like i have a rash (my mum just said this to me today) and my chin is super bad in fact my whole face pretty much and i have scars and it bleeds and i cry etc etc you get the picture. I have such low confidence and if i ever try and express this to my family the conversation makes me feel even worse ( like i said it looks like a wolf attacked me and my mum went "what do you mean, oh because it looks mauled " like geez you couldn’t have just said “no it doesn’t”). It feels like i have bugs crawling under my skin it is SO itchy. and yes i wash my face and yes i have been on all sorts of treatment TRUST ME. I honestly think i am depressed because of this (i have a chronic illness too so the fact that the acne has made me depressed not even my illness is crazy, it really shows how serious having acne can be to mental health). I don’t know what to do.

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Jackson on

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ikran on

Hi I’m 18 i have acne scars and black spots on my face and my back I’ve tried a lot of skincare but they didn’t work even my doctor gave me medicine also it didn’t work I even stoped using make coz I thought the cause of acne was the makeup but it wasn’t my face is getting worse and now I don’t know what to do Every one i meet is asking me what happened to my face I don’t know why people keep asking me about my face so now I’ve started to not want to go outside I don’t want to go out with anyone when i see people i know I hide every time i look the mirror i feel sad about my acne my life has changed because of my acne

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MK on

I’m 15 about to be 16 in July and I have struggles with acne since I was 12. It has been so hard having pimples on your face and body because it makes you so self conscious. I have it on my face, back, chest, and upper arms. Everyday I look at it in the mirror I cry because of how ugly it makes me feel. Clear flawless skin is the beauty standard and I have nothing like that. Even though I try and go on so many regimens it doesn’t work. Everyday I cry without fail due to it and I’ve heard comments from friends / family about it. Things like your face is so bumpy/pimply and do you even wash it or why does it look like that. It’s okay they don’t have to tell me because I already know. I already know how disgusting it looks trust me.

Because of it I don’t want to go outside, I don’t want to see friends/family look at me, I don’t want anyone to see how disgusting I’ve become. I can’t wear cute clothes with their back, chest, or arm out because I’m afraid of my body acne. I’m scared to wear swimsuits and dress because of it. I hate my skin so much and I don’t know what to do to fix it. My mom already spends thousands of dollars on different products and puts me on different diets. But I don’t even care anymore because I’d even starve if I could have clear skin. I just pray that everyone in this comment section will be blessed with clear skin. I get so envious of others with their perfect skin that they barely wash while I go through so much trying to keep it clear. I pray that I will have freedom from this skin and that I will finally be able to be happy with my skin. I see all you struggling comments and it makes me sad how we are all going through this but it’s never talked about. We will all get clear skin that’s a promise.

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Jaspar Glagovs on

Hey everyone, its nice to see alll the comments in here bieng both positive and being a self-esteem boost. Seems like majority of the comments hear are female, so I guess hears my perspective. I got acne when I was around 12 to 13 basically mid way through year 7 and it was pretty depressing to find out i was the only one going through it. I am 16 now and things haven’t changed, it has both stayed the same and gotten worse with countless scars. My year level as well about 95% doesn’t have ANY acne (trust me I have checked) but mine is probably the worst. I am one of the least social people in my school and hate going outside in the sun, only knowing it will end up showing my acne more. I starting growing long hair back in year 7 to kinda hid the acne but it only made my appearance worse and didn’t do anything bout me hair till only recently as I looked like a homeless man tbh with awful acne. Those two other reasons also equate to the fact that I am beyond awful at talking or socialising with girls as I know they aren’t being genuine and just feel sorry for me. I told my self that once my acne cleared I would ask this girl I liked out, but that dream is getting further and further away as know she will just say no, so I may end up never. Some people will say that yes there is still a chance for my acne to go away as I am only 16 rn, but that day could not come faster (if it will). Anyways sorry bout the rant, I just can’t really talk to this with me friends (if that’s what you call them) as they wouldn’t understand at all.

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Michelle Cabal on

Hi! i’m 15 years old and i’ve been struggling with my acne since i was in 6th grade, i’ve recently gotten my face to clear up but i still have scars. my main concern is my back. my back acne has gotten so bad, i don’t know what to do. i have tried everything, i can’t even wear swim suits anymore. i don’t wanna go into public.
i went to a waterpark today and i sat at the table for 2 hours saying im gonna take off this shirt i’m wearing over my swimsuit and love myself. it was really hard cause everyone did not have back acne. i was so embarrassed. i feel ugly cause of this one things and it’s the hardest thing to talk about. you know now society and accepting plus sized people, they are so uplifting, letting those women model. but do they show people with skin issues? no. It seems as if u have acne your ugly. Do u see famous people with a bunch of acne? no. because people seem to think acne makes you ugly. this was a rollercoaster but i want anyone whose reading this with acne! i am with you. Acne does not define you. You are so pretty, even when u may not think so. literally don’t hide it. the more you do the more discouraged you’ll be. After 2 hours of me sitting at the table at the waterpark i made myself get up and love myself. I literally feel so better. whoever judges you, they are idiots. I love you all! I

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Fenton on

Most people. Think acne is gross i mean the ones who never had it. I had it bad needed Accutane and it cured me for many years but a doctor told me once blame your parents but I said they never had it or my siblings it doesn’t matter they gave you bad skin genes. I took many insults from ignorant people. My parents and siblings were lucky. Ya right f them and all people who never had it f u too. My parents included. Sorry thats how I feel. I don’t care what people think. P5 are 2faced when it comes to acne they will say anything to pretend to make you feel good about out yourself.its your personality that counts. Ya right. They think acne is gross and disgusting. Too all people who never acne .lucky mother $%&$@#&. What are they blessed. I guess f them.lucky scumbags.

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BW on

When I was about 20-21, my skin was very bad due to stressors in my life, and a certain medication I had been taking possibly had a hand in worsening my acne.

I went out with a couple of friends/acquaintances and after I came home my MOTHER said to me “It is embarrassing sitting next to someone with a skin like yours”!

I am 53 now, my skin relatively unscathed (actually quite good), but that remark made by my mom still preys on my mind from time to time.

When all is said and done acne ain’t for sissies!

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Taz on

Hello, I’ve been reading the comments and I honestly understand what everyone’s going through; acne just damages all of our self esteem and it’s something that I’ve tried to get over for nearly 3 years now.

I had clear, glowy skin when I was age 12 and to be honest, I wish I was more grateful back then for having such beautiful skin however, I still felt ugly back then since I was an Asian, hairy girl- I began getting small spots and textured skin at age 13 and I remember feeling confused as to why I was getting spots before everyone else, to be honest I felt a little jealous of everyone else’s skin.

My family reassured me that it’s normal and that it’ll only last a few months (which clearly isn’t true) but I was naïve so I believed them and carried on with my life; a few months past and everyday I would look in the mirror and notice the spots getting bigger or new ones forming so I decided to pick them and pray that they will flatten and vanish! That was not the case…at all…instead I got hyperpigmentation (blemishes) and I became even more self conscious since I made my skin worse but also because no one else in my year had acne or flawed skin like me.

I developed anxiety and depression but I wasn’t aware at that time, I decided that I could conceal the mess that I had created so I began to wear makeup- I didn’t have any makeup so every morning (before school) I would go to my parents room and take some concealer and foundation to cover my blemishes and red spots. I did this for 2 years until lockdown came and COVID-19 was discovered, I decided that I needed to fix my skin as well as my diet so I began exercising and creating a skincare routine which at first I stuck to but after a few weeks I began to skip days of washing my face or doing workouts which clearly wasn’t a good idea but I was too lazy and demotivated because I couldn’t see any improvements.

Even to this day, I skip days because everyone around me will stare at my skin and give recommendations or rude comments such as ’Don’t you wash your face properly’ or ‘why is your skin getting worse’; it’s comments like this that makes me want to cry and hate myself but I have learned to ignore them which is still hard but it shuts them up. When I was 14, we came back to school and my skin apparently was ‘clearing up’ and becoming ‘glowy again’ but I saw the same broken, ugly girl that could never be beautiful like her friends; I was really happy when we were told that we had to wear masks in school at all times unless we were doing physical education or eating/drinking-I kept my mask on at all times which meant that I never ate at school but that was a risk that I was willing to take just to hide my spots.

I focused on my forehead acne and scars because my cheeks and chin were covered with a mask whereas my forehead wasn’t, I cleared my forehead however I still get spots but I force myself not to pick them which weirdly works! I sometimes get comments like ‘why do you always wear your mask’ or ‘are you that scared of COVID that your always wearing your mask’ and the most common one ‘I haven’t seen your bottom half of your face in a year’ which makes me feel embarrassed but I tell them that I’m just being careful and I aim to change the topic which works.

I’m currently 15 and I have done so many home remedies like honey and cinnamon and lemon juice as well as cucumber but only one remedy works on my skin and that’s turmeric and honey mask which I try to put on everyday for 10-15 minutes but I usually miss a day every week because I forget or I’m too tired; I have also used so many different products like ‘clean and clear’ or ‘Neutrogena’ etc. I’ve found the ‘Neutrogena spot stress control’ range the best ones that work for me as I have combination skin. I’ve also tried drinking 2-2.5 litres of water everyday as well as exercise and lower my sugar intake which is really difficult since I loveee sweet food and am addicted to it but I’m improving guys!

I am so self conscious and wearing a mask does produce more spots on my chin but I’m just too scared to show everyone at school my skin because the girls in my year are rude and prestige as well as most of the boys just being egotistical and cocky. My friends are always complimenting me saying ‘omg your skin is so nice’ or ‘girlll your skin is clearing up so much, well done!’ They’ve helped me become more confident and they have never forced me to take my mask off or ask why I keep it on because they are aware of my skin condition and they respect me which I appreciate so much!

I really hope and pray that we all get through this and become more confident because I’ve realised and learnt that acne is normal and many students in my year have spots and they are so much more braver than me (I still wear a mask at all times and am planning to keep it on lol). This is the first time that I’m sharing my story and what my journey has been like so far; I believe that there has to be more representation on acne like adverts having models that have spots as well as magazines doing the same.

I also hope that no one has to go through what I’ve gone through and if you are, tell someone that you are close to and that you know won’t judge you because I wish I had someone to talk to and address my metal health because I know that it takes a lot of hard work to improve my health and go back to how I used to be, a bubbly, energetic girl that had no problems with her skin and loved herself as well as everyone else around her…

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morgan on

i’ve been struggling with acne since i was probably 13/14. i am 19 now, 20 in december. ive tried just about everything. my acne has taken over my life. my mental health is dangerously bad right now. the only thing that kind of worked was when i cut out dairy from my diet. i want to go on accutane because it seems promising to a lot of people. i’m at the end of my road. i can’t go on like this when everyone around me looks so clear and normal. i have VERY oily, acne prone skin. my acne has affected my confidence to the point of me not wanting to go out in public. i don’t talk to guys because i’m so self conscious. i have never had a boyfriend or even talked to anyone romantically. i’m unlikeable. i don’t know what to do anymore. all hope is lost.

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Barbara on

I’m 37 & still breakout. I suffer from cystic and hormonal acne and have tried EVERYTHING. Dermalmd acne serum…. not the standard acne med. It has kept my face CLEAR for months. I have really oily skin and the dermalmd serum handles my acne and oily skin without drying it out. I’ll never use anything else.

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Elody on

THREE of my kids have had acne issues; heavy facial breakouts and tried many products to no avail. Acne Removal Serum of Dermalmd works GREAT… all of them had improvement in LESS than a week! Use as directed … my son tried using just the cleanser, and it wasn’t enough. Use all three. As far as moisturizing, it caused very little significant dryness, and as far as sensitive skin, my children do not have that, so I’m not at real liberty to say. I have recommended this acne serum to people for years… give it a shot!

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Mia Long on

My acne started at around 9. I am now 13 turning 14 in two months and it’s not fair. As a girl, i feel so self conscious whenever i go out to school and even everyday normal things to go out for makes me nervous to go out in public. Additionally, it does not help that my clear skinned friends say “oh, you should wash your face” or when they have their ‘breakouts’ which is literally one pimple on there chin and goes within less than a week. I have acne all over my face, neck, back, shoulders and chest. I honestly sometimes feel like it is never going to go away, it really takes a toll on my well being and self confidence.

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maggie on

we are all fighters here in the comment section… i’ve had acne for 8 years now, currently taking spironalactone, ampicillin antibiotic (just got prescribed it last week, they won’t give me accutane but i want it so bad), tretinoin, benzoyl peroxide, hydrocolloid patches, toner, and moisturizer. i’m exhausted and poor to be honest with you, and i want to feel good in my skin and spend my money on traveling instead. i’m praying to the universe for clear skin for us all. It isn’t our fault and everyone’s skin is different. I try so hard to remember that people without acne have other insecurities we don’t know about. I am still smart. I am still kind. I am still enough.

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Chuks Princess on

Hi!…I’m 15 years old and live in a society where acne is seen as an ‘almost aberration’. I had my first breakout when I was freshly 10 years old and since then my acne has not gotten any better! I’m quite relieved and happy(sort if the combination of the two) to know that I’m not really the only one who has cried about this. This post has given me some insights and has made me a little confident. I am the only one with bad bad acne in my family, and in the school( someone even pointed that out and I tried to not scream and cry my eyes out when he said it, PS: I was totally embarrassed). Having acne on my face, chest, back and lower back and on my upper arms has done me no benefit. I am someone who is quite sensitive to words that people say to me, and having someone say ‘eww, I can see that big pimple on your forehead’ ,or ‘what are you using to treat your face?you’re not looking nice at alll’, or seeing someone with clear face tell me ‘God forbid I have this kind of thing on my face and not go and use knife to cut it out or anything to remove those disgusting things’ DOES a LOT of damage to my self worth and esteem.I have very little confidence whenever I walk with my younger sister who is physically bigger than me( she’s quite thick and curvy and boom! she has no acne) because when I do, alot of comments from people on the side streets are words like ‘hey fine gal,why you no remain beauty for your sister na?’ or ‘mehnn, see difference, one is cute and the other one is not’ . There was a time when a guy who saw me shouted so loudly “200 pimples on the face!”, that was the time I became crushed emotionally(literally speaking). I am really introverted and reserved because this issue and the fact that I have another bodily flaw(I have a 5 inch gap between my knees when I stand) just makes everything worse. I really hope I will eventually learn to love myself and see myself as someone who is not a failure and a disgrace and as someone with WORTH despite these hurdles…I hope every other person with issues like this sees themselves as beautiful and classy and important.

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Philly on

Hi I’m 13 y.o my face isn’t so bad but since we have to wear masks in public my forehead makes me look bad.I am trying my best to get rid of the spots on my forehead but whatever I do it just stays.Ive told my parents that I need acne treatment but they keep saying your face is fine and when I want concealer to cover it they say makeup spoils my face.I feel really sad when I look in the mirror and see my forehead covered with these horrible spots.But my face is getting better and everyday my spots are getting lower and lower.I use dove soap which helps a lot so if you have acne try dove original beauty bar soap.

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Kenny on

Hi! I’m 15 and I have black heads,acne scars and small bumps on my face,neck and chest, and it’s really disturbing,I’ve tried some skincare products but all to no avail.It all started when I was thirteen but I never imagined it will be as worse as this,I’ve seen many articles online that gives me that confidence boost,but society is just. being unjust,many people point out my flaws and it’s really disturbing and diminishing my self esteem,I feel so self-conscious, anxious and peharps eierd when I’m out,like everything’s just awkward,“hey,why don’t you try”this,try that ,what happened to your face,hope you are treating it"
All this statement are heart crushing,and it really saddens me,feels as if I’m an outcast in the land of the “perfect skin” tribe,well, this article is encouraging, but reality for me……………………… often dissapointing,I stare at people with perfect skin always and it makes me feel dejected,it pains,life’s unfair, my classmates and others at my school tease me always,as per the only acne patient in the class,low self-esteem 101,I’ve been trying home remedies too but all is yielding no good results,I just hope i get through all of these, cause to be honest,I ain’t happy about it.

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Neil ivan on

I’m currently suffering thru a tough situation with acne on my face i do and honestly say that im conscious over my phys. appearance. And sometimes just wanna think why is the world unfair.

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Sienna on

Hi i’m 14 years old and recently started breaking out on my forehead. At first they appeared as very small bumps, but gradually have worsened and become a crippling and degrading insecurity that I have to combat. I wasn’t fazed by my acne in the beginning as it was less noticeable, but now I am so self conscious of it that I am to anxious to hangout with friends and go in public, feeling that I will be considered as an outcast. I have tried a wide variety of different skincare products anticipating to see results, but always turn out disappointed. I keep trying to find the light in this situation, but it keeps diminishing when those around you are constantly pointing out your acne, trying to “fix” you when instead you feel crushed and your insecurities are heightening. Social media has portrayed this message that you need perfect skin to feel beautiful, and has set unrealistic expectations upon those who feel like they need to fulfil this statement. The media focuses more on highlighting insecurities then normalising it, which messes with peoples head making them feel that they aren’t worthy enough of being categorised in the “norms” of society that have been praised for a long time. A change is needed, and those who suffer from acne should feel comfortable in their own skin as it is normal and beautiful.

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Anish on

I am 23years old my acne started at the age of 14years what’s the issue is I get rid of pimples but it left so many scars on my face on my chest on my shoulders and on my upper back I have used many products to get rid of scars but nothing helped me I am facing this issue since 5 years it really damaged my self esteem. I can’t socialize with people I can’t even talk to close friends watching face to face these acne and scars made me introvert I can’t leave home society even point out those scars and feel annoy. I am done with it I can’t take it any more as I always think I born with badluck

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Yana on

My acne.. really just comes and goes… And it’s really in my dad’s genes since my brother and my cousins get them too. Words couldn’t explain and fingers couldn’t count the feelings and how many times I’ve been humiliated, shamed, and called nicknames on because of my skin. I just want it gone but it’s really such a long battle. I started taking selfies without filters on.. and I could say it really helped because apparently, my skin isn’t that bad. But whenever I see couples on social media, I wonder if I’d even get one. Intimacy is part of it. Everyone should have a social life. But with these spots on my face, arms, chest and back?! I still wonder how I’d get through with my life. I’m seeking a professional for about a few months now and I even deactivated my socials because I wanna focus on myself and heal properly. Thanks to this website I feel more less insecure!! :,)
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pari on

I have PCOS,I’ve been breaking out since I was 16 I tried so many products but nothing worked for me
now its my second time to be on accutane , what hurts me the most is not the acne itself I prefer to have so much acne but not scars, the first time I started breaking out I broke out more than today but it didn’t leave scars on my face, but this time my acnes are cystic and leaving scars which I hate so much,i can’t stop looking in the mirror and not cry, I cry everyday and have no hope, I’m a medical student but my acne had an impact even on my studying because I’m just too sad

robert on

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anonymous on

I used to be so are free and happy-go-lucky and I miss that. I developed bad acne on my face and back it was horrifying. My family always had clear skin so I was like an animal at the zoo for them to look at. The constant reminder from my sister that I’m different doesn’t help. I use to love swimming and was planning to be on the team but then after I got acne, I couldn’t get in the pool because I would have to were a shirt to cover it up. I just wish people would understand that pointing it out and saying do this is not helpful it just ruins my day because it reminds me that something is different about me that they need to point it out.

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Lin YJ on

Hey I go by the name Lin YJ and I deal with quite bad acne too, I see some of the comments and I’d like to say, I’m feeling lucky. Been dealing with this acne for a year plus, I get scared to face my frends knoeing they have clear skin while I don’t, I have a girlfriend, LDR, I dont know if I can face her with the acne on my face, it really ruins self esteem, but without this acne we wouldn’t learn how to appreciate clear skin. Hope everyone who has acne has a speedy recovery.

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Alaska on

I am 14 now. My acne started when I was around 12 years old. At first, my parents didn’t thought much about it because
they thought that it was just because of puberty. Even I didn’t think much about it. But it started getting worse. I have acne all over my face, on my shoulders,neck and a little bit on my chest. Acne made me so self-conscious that I started getting socially anxious. I get nervous even when I have an appointment with my dentist.

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Pass by on

I have been suffering for so long, I feel ashamed of my face every time I had to look in the mirror, I have faith that one day it will be over and I won’t ever care about having this problem again but it seems like it’s quite a long battle. It really affects me psychologically in such a bad way that I feel so depressed and uncomfortable, my face would look absolutely much different without acne and pimples here and there. Can’t tell how much that annoys me to the extent that I stay up so late thinking about it, cry sometimes and so..I believe it’s temporary, and yes it’s normal, you are not the only person in the world, many others share the same emotions and feelings and this website really helps. I thank everyone who shared their experience here and I’ve been touched by the amount of support and self-esteem shown.

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Dante peters on

the word insecure does not begin to sum up what i fell about my acne which i have been in a constant battle for 4 years plus now sometimes i look at old pictures of myself and just think about what my life would be like if i had clear skin, every morning i look at the mirror hoping that one day i am just gonna wake up to see that all my acne is gone but i am gotten tired of being optimistic i don’t even have hope in any of the products i am currently using because no of it works for me but i just keep using then i would feel even wort if i did nothing. sometimes days i feel like i would rather loose a toe than to leave another day with acne i would say for sure i have acne has made become someone who like to be by them self every time because i have to put up this fake personality that i am okay with my skin when i am with other so i just think it is better to be alone al the time. i cant even facetime my friends proper because of this shit . i hate it when i hear people tell me you should try this and that and some other bullshit products because no of it works and they don’t just get that when i do have to go out i hoodie is up and m head is down. i cant even lie to you i don’t know if it is ever going to get better so i just try my best to get accustomed to this type of life , cant lie I’m tearing up a little as i writhing this but quickly cleaning my tears because i don’t know if leaving my tears on my face is going to cause another outbreak. for anyone out there who is battling acne like me i would like to say the one thing i think is true when it come to this acne stuff and that is stay strong and just keep doing what your already dong because nothing else is going to work.

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Wahyu Rismawati on

Hello, I’m Risma and I’m from Indonesia. I think that it is a common thing to have acne skin here, in Indonesia. I have acne since I was 10 y.o and still have it until now. I’m a very shy and introverted (I guess) person that I only have few friends in my 21 y.o life. I always silently cry whenever I look at my reflection in mirror. I feel like I’m the worst, ugly, unsightly person in life for having acnes on my whole face. I’m so disgusted with my face. I know that I’m not the only one who is experiencing this, but I just can’t help feeling hopeless whenever I go out and people start looking at my face. I’m tired of people trying to tell me to do this or that thing to get rid of my acnes without knowing my struggles to actually GET RID OF THIS ACNE. I’m grateful that they are trying to care for me by recommending me to do those things, but I don’t know, their acts just make me more conscious of my imperfections. And that sucks. I’m still trying to love this imperfection tho. Wish me luck so I will be more stronger than I am now.

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Anonymous on

I have gotten so much from this website and it’s so nice to be able to relate to all the comments. All I think about when I’m in social groups or spending time with love ones, is that they are looking at my skin and That they are feeling bad for me about my scars. I feel like I’m the only person I know with sever acne scars and no one understands how I feel. I just stare at my skin in different lighting, just wishing I had normal skin and could think about other things and be happy. I’m in a happy relationship, but when he looks at me all I feel is that he is looking at my scars and think that he wishes I didn’t have them, even though her has never said that. Maybe I just feel like he can do better with someone with good skin even though he loves me. No one understands until they have gone through acne. I’m just glad I was able to know we’re all not alone out there and we will get through this together.

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Dan Scarlett Valkyrie Wall on

I have had bad skin all my life including eczema and its miserable and demoralising. I’m about to turn 49 and I’m still covered, it’s mainly hormone driven and I get clusters of painful cysts and black heads that are very visible. I want to send my love and support to everyone struggling, it’s hard not to feel ashamed because you have spots. I eat healthy, exercise, I’m on meds and you know what sometimes there’s very little you can do, it’s not your fault and it’s not an indication of your self worth.

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Syafitri on

Hallo i"m Syafitri. Im 15 y.o ..im from indonesia and its tropical country i had pretty bad acne since i was 9 or 10 and still happen until now. Everyday i always think that im the ugliest girl in my classroom even in my school. Well i can not think positively about my self because i have super terrible skin. I have large pores, my skin colour is brown, my face is red and have those called blackheads or whiteheads all over my face. Have you seen the girl with the super perfectly clean, clear and smooth skin? I am the opposite of it. My skin always looking dull and it is super super oily.. Expecially when im living in this tropical country. When i go outside people ALWAYS staring at MY FACE. And i feel very ugly and tryna walk fast . Well its more painful when youre best friend say in front of youre face that your skin is the worst in the world. But she’s not the only one who talking like that. There’s my teacher, my mom, my friend’s mom, my sister and etc. Im muslim girl who wear hijab , when im praying i always ask to Allah to make me strong. Sometimes i cry a lot alone, cause im introverted and im naturally a shy person this acne always make me to think that im ugly. But every single day i always think that ‘its okay to be not perfect at least you are real’. Maybe it sound stupid like why the hell would i think like that. But i do, everyday. And for the girls out there, always always always remember that beautiful is not to look by beauty standard. For example if you have very white skin don"t be shy. Ik most of american girl wanna have tan skin. But in here you are totally beautiful as fuck. Because million people in here want to have white skin. This is help me to sharing my story because i dont trust anyone again to talk about my bad bad acne. If u guys meet me in the real life u would be thankful to God because at least you dont have acne face like mine. I have whatsapp and im looking for friend to sharing with. I would be happy if some of u guys who reading this wanna be my friend. I hope my story help you to be open minded about acne face.

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Kelsey on

Hey! I’m 14 years old and i’ve been struggling with acne for what seems like forever (well, its my third year). At first I wasn’t really worried about it and I kept telling myself it would go away in a few moths to a year. When it didn’t though, I started to become very self conscious. I would try to cover it up with makeup, but all it did was irritate my skin even more and leave me with another pimple and several more white/blackheads. I would literally just stare in the mirror and cry because i felt so ugly. Even through all that, I defiantly agree that we- the ones struggling with acne, are our own worst critics. A few days ago I talked to my best friend about how acne affected my everyday life (not wanting to go to school, not wanting to show my face, purposely avoiding going to parties and other social events), and she told me that she rarely ever just notices my acne and that what really matters is what’s in the inside, not the outside. This article has brightened my day up! Just a few minutes ago I was sulking on my couch, but now I’m gonna get up and try to remember I’m beautiful just the way I am!! Have a wonderful day! <3

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Advanced Skin Care on

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jane on

acne is by far my biggest insecurity. my skin can literally determine whether I’m sad or happy. I don’t want to go to social events because of how self conscious I am. honestly I know it sucks so much. but acne is normal and it is temporary.

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Emily Young on

Hi I’m only fourteen years old but I can totally relate with most of these comments. Compared to other kids at school I developed acne at a very early age and was always envious of everyone else had perfect skin. And ever since I began using medication at such a young age my face has gotten worse. I try to lighten up my facial routine but when I do my acne gets worse… and on the other hand when I continue what I’m doing now my face gets really red and irritated…

My anxiety started up when I noticed my cousins in a summer trip having near perfect skin and my aunts trying to recommend different products to me. I got that they were trying to help me but bringing it up all the time made me overly self conscious.. Plus, it doesn’t help that my older brother in Highschool has never had a pimple in his life despite being too lazy most of the time to wash his face in the morning!

Next year I’m going to a new Highschool with none of my friends nor siblings.. I’m worried if I will find enough confidence to make new friends and enjoy the “best years of my life”. Reading this article and the comments made me feel a little better today.. I hope I can get over this fear of mine and make new friends in the fall!

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Preksha on

I dont knowfrom where to start i have been struggling with acne for 4 years it will come in march make my skin worse and suddenly dissapear for months when i begin to feel happy ya its clearing up its pops out again …i thaought lets leave this all medicines and ointments and stick to ayurvedic thrn again ehen i did that it became much worse then i started my treatment again with those medicine then my skin cleared up again i felt happy but here it goes march came then my skin became agian worse .i tell myself daily u r beautiful its okay its just a pimple but even when i am telling myself somwhere i am hurting ..i dont go outside i always stay in home .i dont even have frds ..i know this post is not positive but i just wanted to share my feelings …

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Clare on

It’s really validating to read all the other comments here about people who have experienced the same thing. For me, my social anxiety when it comes to my acne can feel crippling. And it makes me feel so ridiculous sometimes, because it can seem like such a silly thing to worry over, but while I wish none of us had this experience, the fact that lots of us have experienced something similar is a relief.

I started getting acne as soon as puberty hit—when I was twelve years old, I think. Since then, I have never had clear skin. Ever. There are times when I got close, but my skin has never been blemish-free. I’m eighteen now, and still struggle with this issue. I’ve tried so many products and so many home remedies online. None of them seem to make much of an impact. I constantly have acne all over my forehead and my chin, sometimes on my cheeks and under my nose. It feels like a futile fight. I’ll work really hard and be super careful not to touch my face and I’ll be rigorous with my skincare. It’ll seem to be working and then—bam! It all returns the next week.

I think people who don’t have problems with acne really don’t understand how much it affects your self-esteem. I hate that I feel ashamed to walk around in public because I don’t want people to have to see my face. It’s a horrible thing to be having a conversation with someone and be barely able to concentrate because I’m so ashamed for making them look at my repulsive face. My insecurity about my acne and my appearance in general has made it harder for me to make friends and get through social interactions because I lack confidence and seem to have this powerful belief that I make people uncomfortable because of it.

I know, logically, that my appearance doesn’t dictate my worth. Having clear skin doesn’t make you a better person. But somehow I can’t seem to convince myself of it. I really hope when puberty comes to its end that I’ll finally be able to say goodbye to my acne problems. And if not, I hope it’ll be less of a problem for me.

There’s no easy solution to this problem, but I hope all of you out there know that there are other people who experience the same problem. That you’re not alone in this problem and insecurity and that imperfect and blemished skin is normal.

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scar on

it’s 1:00 am. I’m silently crying while reading this, I’ve been battling with acne for 4 years now. I had this kind of anxiety. Just today, my friends planned to hangout but I couldn’t say yes but I can’t even tell them the reason why. Its just my acne gone worst again, and Im too shy to face them or the public. trying to be positive and thinking “oh it’s just acne, im still pretty” but really sometimes you’ll be eaten by your own insecurities..cant help it . i feel too ugly because of this. I’ve tried so many product, and yes , I have consulted with a dermatologist already. yet im still here with acne. feeling so hopeless now. Im left with no confidence.

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neyyyyy on

thanks to this article at least it does help me boost up my spirit even it is only 000.1% haha..idk I’m just suffering acne vulgaris lately in which everyday I get new pimple :( it is reallyyy stucked bcs before this I never experienced getting lots of pimples at the same time! People used to compliment me that I had such flawless & beautiful skin before (highschool period). Buttt my skin is worsen day by day when I entered university until now. yeah, I’ve tried skincares that claim to reduce acne blablabla but somehow I don’t see the changes or it is only me that can’t be patient to wait for the result haha.. however, I’m looking forward for the advices to be used especially when I’m surrounded by toxic people in which I need to brainwash their stigma on people suffering acne prone skin. thankyou :)

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Faith Uwakwe on

I’ve come to realize that life is about how you see yourself from the inside. I started breaking out at the age of 20. Since then it has not been a smooth sailing path. Thanks to this article. I feel rejuvenated… It’s quite soothing to find out that many a person go through what you are going through. At least you’re not alone in the quagmire….

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Solanna on

I was actually always at home as I’m not comfortable going outside. Back then, I tried to socialize, i really did try, but then every time i do it, people always ask what happened to my face or if not, they always tell me what to do; buy this product or this product etc. I am tired. For 8 years I’ve been suffering these horrible acne. Nothing works and it’s draining me, when will this end? I feel like I’m missing the half of my life just because i don’t wanna go outside. Is it just me or people do stare? but I hope they only stare, sometimes they tease me for having it. But i won’t ever wish for someone to have it, it’s the worst.

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Bev on

At 53 and still have acne. Monthly laser treatments and spot treating with wart remover does help however it never completely goes away. I’ve worked with dermatologists since the age of 13. I have had to remove dairy and gluten from my diet. I can’t go outside unless I have the acne covered - high anxiety as a result and my husband’s/children’s comments don’t help.

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juliana on

to whoever reading this , yes you cant make your acne go away but please dont feel anxiety or depress . girl , you are beautiful . its just you are giving negative thinking to yourself . i understand you feel insecure when you see a girl with clear skin , clear arm so she can wear whatever she want while you need to choose clothes that can cover your acne . But please rethink . imagine you dont have leg , hand or you dont have eye . im not downgrading the people who dont have these i mentioned buttt please appreciate yourself . still can walk , can learn can see , imagine if you cannot hear and all people make fun of you . wdy feel ? acne can be removed . i also have so many acne but i tried so hard to remove and now its getting better from before . try using turmeric powder + honey + lemon put on your face . im using that remedies . Before that , i spent so much money for my face but end up getting worst . So last , please appreciate yourself . Maybe you are not perfect in face , but trust me you have your own beautiful at another way . maybe you can sing well or can do beautiful drawing or maybe faster learner ? we dont know . everyone is pretty !!!! stop your anxiety . spent your time with family . ask your mother abt your face . yah mother is always an expert in everything . believe in yourself . dont worry about who doesnt like you . do you like you ? its okay to have acne . i pray that you all and also me can overcome this anxiety . xoxo

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amanda on

i’m 17 years old . i suffered from acne scars as i loved to picking it cause i think its better than having a big acne on my face . I have many acne since im 13 years old . At the beginning , i think the acne will come and go but now im suffered double for the acne scars too . its full on my cheek , i feel hmm i dont know mybe almost to depressed :( i once had a boyfriend but i will decline whenever he asked me for a date then we break for no reason . i feel insecure when seeing most of girls on soc media is very very pretty but they are saying “ im not pretty ” “ can someone teach me how to be pretty ” i dont understand their ways . if the pretty ones said that they are ugly then how abt me :(((( im full of acne ! i tried many skincare that people said will reduce acne and remove scars but nothing happen , i dont know whats wrong with my skin . i even avoid family gathering and rarely looked my siblings and family face , i mean talking while looking into their eyes as i feel im so ugly :( i never forgot my own mom said my face is getting worst and not pretty like before … idk if she is kidding but yah her word is on my mind every night .. i really relly hope i can face my anxiety !!!!! i always cry because of this , i think if i have clear skin all my problems will go away :<

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